This Is Who We Are

Cycle of abuse.

Very often in dysfunctional, abusive relationships there is what's called a cycle of abuse. America has been in a traumatic, abusive relationship with Donald Trump for years.

Yesterday was the collective trauma of helplessly watching lawless and violent domestic terrorists climb up and break into our Capitol Building.

And tonight with (the abuser) Trump's speech, we are in the Honeymoon Phase of the cycle. I want you to be aware of how this works if you hadn't thought about it already. Trauma, make up, another trauma, make up, some more trauma, make up, and it goes on...

We can say NO to a narcissist's mea culpa's, and faint displays of decency, normalcy. You do not have to accept that this is as good as it gets for you, or that this is somehow acceptable or normal behavior. Oh, with Trump this exhausting abusive cycle has been normalized! But it is not normal. Reject it.

Because he is a liar, everything that comes out of his mouth is meaningless. Worthless. Whatever he said tonight was garbage. The problem in abusive relationships is, the victim hears a morsel of sanity (like tonight's speech for 'unity and peace') and clings to that and makes meaning out of it, and chooses to hope that THIS TIME things will be different. Do I have to tell you what happens next in the cycle?

The abuse. It is only a matter of time before something else bad happens. Not if, but when.

It is unfair for all of us to be held hostage until January 20th at noon and pray to God he doesn't start a war. And it's been unfair for all of us, including his fans who have been used and conned maybe more than anybody, to have been treated this way by this madman.

So I grieve tonight and tomorrow and I, like you, cross my fingers that Trump will not start a nuclear war. The damage he's done to us will probably take the rest of our lifetimes to heal and unravel from. Nobody said anything about fair but this shit ain't fair. We again, as so often happens for the victims of abuse, are left to pick up the pieces and do all the work to fix all this shit that's been broken and it didn't have to be this bad.

We didn't have to suffer so much. We didn't deserve to be abused like this, and I'm sorry this has happened to you.